Yes, Sir!
Reading: Ephesians 5:21-24,33b
“The wife must respect her husband” (Eph 5:33b)
The King James Version uses the word ‘reverence’ in place of ‘respect’ which I think is much more than just respect. In the Tamil language there is a saying that the husband is god in visible form. Even though it is a hyperbole, it comes close to Biblical expectation. Sarah understood this truth very well and obeyed Abraham calling him ‘Lord’ (1 Pet 3:6).
A story goes like this: The Duke of Edinburgh was inside the locked bedroom when Queen Elizabeth knocked. He asked, “Who?” The reply was, “I am Queen Elizabeth.” The door did not open. Again she knocked and the response was, “Who?” she replied, “I am your wife.” Then the Duke opened the door.
The test of your respect is in the answer to the question, “Will my husband thank God for me?” With women climbing the corporate ladder to become secretaries, managers and CEOs, the respect they show their husbands has taken a deep plunge. Don’t expect respect; give respect and what you expect will come without asking. I am not suggesting that you put up with every abuse but there are certainly too many minor abuses which a woman can ignore with some effort.
Some ways to respect him are: Call him with respect, be submissive, cook to his taste, attend to his needs, enjoy being in bed with him, do not talk back, do not fight, do not be cold and silent, do not talk ill of him to anybody, do not make fun of him, do not correct him before others.
Try talking good of him to others. That will boost his self-respect. Wait for him patiently when you are ready to go out instead of jumping up and down. Overcome temptations of lust and be faithful to him. When he criticizes you, correct yourself instead of blowing your top. Talk good of his family to him, ignoring all the negative aspects. It is a good spiritual discipline. Treat his gifts with respect. You can add your own to this list.
May be you can ask him when he feels disrespected and how he’d like you to change. Thus you make yourself vulnerable, but the payoff is generous! What is it? ‘Yes, Ma’am!’
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, 8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
Yes, Sir!
Reading: Ephesians 5:21-24,33b
“The wife must respect her husband” (Eph 5:33b)
The King James Version uses the word ‘reverence’ in place of ‘respect’ which I think is much more than just respect. In the Tamil language there is a saying that the husband is god in visible form. Even though it is a hyperbole, it comes close to Biblical expectation. Sarah understood this truth very well and obeyed Abraham calling him ‘Lord’ (1 Pet 3:6).
A story goes like this: The Duke of Edinburgh was inside the locked bedroom when Queen Elizabeth knocked. He asked, “Who?” The reply was, “I am Queen Elizabeth.” The door did not open. Again she knocked and the response was, “Who?” she replied, “I am your wife.” Then the Duke opened the door.
The test of your respect is in the answer to the question, “Will my husband thank God for me?” With women climbing the corporate ladder to become secretaries, managers and CEOs, the respect they show their husbands has taken a deep plunge. Don’t expect respect; give respect and what you expect will come without asking. I am not suggesting that you put up with every abuse but there are certainly too many minor abuses which a woman can ignore with some effort.
Some ways to respect him are: Call him with respect, be submissive, cook to his taste, attend to his needs, enjoy being in bed with him, do not talk back, do not fight, do not be cold and silent, do not talk ill of him to anybody, do not make fun of him, do not correct him before others.
Try talking good of him to others. That will boost his self-respect. Wait for him patiently when you are ready to go out instead of jumping up and down. Overcome temptations of lust and be faithful to him. When he criticizes you, correct yourself instead of blowing your top. Talk good of his family to him, ignoring all the negative aspects. It is a good spiritual discipline. Treat his gifts with respect. You can add your own to this list.
May be you can ask him when he feels disrespected and how he’d like you to change. Thus you make yourself vulnerable, but the payoff is generous! What is it? ‘Yes, Ma’am!’
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, Mob:8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
