Reading: Judges 13
“A gracious woman retains honour” (Prov 11:16)
We pull the chair and sit down to talk. But sometimes, we feel like closing the conversation, getting up and leaving the place. Why? There are many reasons why our companion made us feel so. Let us learn to be gracious so as to make our friend comfortable while talking to us. How can we do that?
Often, in a conversation, an argument creeps in. When our friend wants to win, there’s an irresistable urge to dig in our heels. This leads to prolonged arguments, each trying to emphasize her point. Now relax and let her win. Let her feel good. There is nearly always a grain of truth in the other person’s point of view. Avoid I-am- right-you-are-wrong statements. A wise wife will let the husband win. Mean people say and do things that wound others. Zip up your lip when such words roll out of your heart and climb up your throat and into your month. Let them die there.
Quell your pride. Do not gloat. When she says, “I saw in America,” don’t say, “I saw a bigger one in Germany.” Listen politely nodding your head. Accept the way they treat you instead of being demanding. That’s the way you show your humility.
Appreciate the other genuinely. “Once in a century a man may
be ruined or made insufferable by praise. But surely once in a minute something generous dies for want of it,” says John Masefield. Honest appreciation bonds a relationship. So do not be reluctant to praise her to her face. Never lose your temper even slightly. Keep your cool. Never criticize. It kills relationship. You can always wait for a time when you can point out her mistake in a friendly way. Listen carefully with expression in your face. Do not be distracted. Avoid subtle comparisons that say, I am better, my cooking is better, my children are better, my grandchildren are better, my place is better. It kills a conversation, switching off your friend.
We enjoy snubbing. It gives us a superior feeling. But it is a very inferior character to snub others. We must make them feel good about themselves. Treat them like VIPs. If they are suffering from an inferiority complex boost their ego. Overlook their short- comings.
If you consider others better than yourself, then you are a
gracious woman who retains her honour (Phil 2:3).
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
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Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, 8806270699
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Reading: Judges 13
“A gracious woman retains honour” (Prov 11:16)
We pull the chair and sit down to talk. But sometimes, we feel like closing the conversation, getting up and leaving the place. Why? There are many reasons why our companion made us feel so. Let us learn to be gracious so as to make our friend comfortable while talking to us. How can we do that?
Often, in a conversation, an argument creeps in. When our friend wants to win, there’s an irresistable urge to dig in our heels. This leads to prolonged arguments, each trying to emphasize her point. Now relax and let her win. Let her feel good. There is nearly always a grain of truth in the other person’s point of view. Avoid I-am- right-you-are-wrong statements. A wise wife will let the husband win. Mean people say and do things that wound others. Zip up your lip when such words roll out of your heart and climb up your throat and into your month. Let them die there.
Quell your pride. Do not gloat. When she says, “I saw in America,” don’t say, “I saw a bigger one in Germany.” Listen politely nodding your head. Accept the way they treat you instead of being demanding. That’s the way you show your humility.
Appreciate the other genuinely. “Once in a century a man may
be ruined or made insufferable by praise. But surely once in a minute something generous dies for want of it,” says John Masefield. Honest appreciation bonds a relationship. So do not be reluctant to praise her to her face. Never lose your temper even slightly. Keep your cool. Never criticize. It kills relationship. You can always wait for a time when you can point out her mistake in a friendly way. Listen carefully with expression in your face. Do not be distracted. Avoid subtle comparisons that say, I am better, my cooking is better, my children are better, my grandchildren are better, my place is better. It kills a conversation, switching off your friend.
We enjoy snubbing. It gives us a superior feeling. But it is a very inferior character to snub others. We must make them feel good about themselves. Treat them like VIPs. If they are suffering from an inferiority complex boost their ego. Overlook their short- comings.
If you consider others better than yourself, then you are a
gracious woman who retains her honour (Phil 2:3).
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, Mob:8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
