Second Honeymoon!
Reading: Ruth 3
“A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives.
But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes,
but he must belong to the Lord” (1 Cor 7:39)
There are many distorted notions in a land like India where women try to be faithful to their dead husbands. You don’t have the dilemma of facing two husbands in heaven if you remarry! You have not understood the Scriptures. For in heaven we will be like the angels of God (Mt 22:29,30). In fact, after writing in the first Letter to the Corinthians that widows may choose to remain single (1 Cor 7:8,40), after seeing some real life serials, Paul strongly recommends that they marry. “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander. Some have in fact already turned away to follow satan” (1 Tim 5:14,15). Writing to the Corinthians in his first Epistle, Paul states, “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (7:8,9). Many women fall in sin because they are afraid to face society which is ready to condemn them if they marry again. Both in church and society, the lot of young widows is more difficult. Wives suspect you. Eyebrows will be raised even at your normal friendship with men. You cannot entertain men in your home.
If loneliness is killing you, you long for the companionship of a man, a father for your children, if you need a man’s help at home for your own safety or if perchance you fall in love with a suitable man who loves you and will care for your children, then please go ahead and marry him (Rom 7:2,3). There is nothing to feel guilty about it. That in no way reduces your love and fidelity to your husband who is no more. Society or your own family may refuse to cooperate with you. Seek the help of your pastor or spiritual leaders. “Even if God gives a gift, the priest will not pass it on to the devotee,” says a Tamil proverb. We are entombed in a rigid society which will not permit even what the Bible permits. The Old Testament also recommends widow remarriage. Naomi was an advocate of widow remarriage.
God has a soft corner in His heart for widows. If you remarry, you will be showing the way to timid women to come out of their tomb and lead a bright and happy life by seeing your example.
Be bold, be blessed!
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, 8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
Second Honeymoon!
Reading: Ruth 3
“A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives.
But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes,
but he must belong to the Lord” (1 Cor 7:39)
There are many distorted notions in a land like India where women try to be faithful to their dead husbands. You don’t have the dilemma of facing two husbands in heaven if you remarry! You have not understood the Scriptures. For in heaven we will be like the angels of God (Mt 22:29,30). In fact, after writing in the first Letter to the Corinthians that widows may choose to remain single (1 Cor 7:8,40), after seeing some real life serials, Paul strongly recommends that they marry. “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander. Some have in fact already turned away to follow satan” (1 Tim 5:14,15). Writing to the Corinthians in his first Epistle, Paul states, “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (7:8,9). Many women fall in sin because they are afraid to face society which is ready to condemn them if they marry again. Both in church and society, the lot of young widows is more difficult. Wives suspect you. Eyebrows will be raised even at your normal friendship with men. You cannot entertain men in your home.
If loneliness is killing you, you long for the companionship of a man, a father for your children, if you need a man’s help at home for your own safety or if perchance you fall in love with a suitable man who loves you and will care for your children, then please go ahead and marry him (Rom 7:2,3). There is nothing to feel guilty about it. That in no way reduces your love and fidelity to your husband who is no more. Society or your own family may refuse to cooperate with you. Seek the help of your pastor or spiritual leaders. “Even if God gives a gift, the priest will not pass it on to the devotee,” says a Tamil proverb. We are entombed in a rigid society which will not permit even what the Bible permits. The Old Testament also recommends widow remarriage. Naomi was an advocate of widow remarriage.
God has a soft corner in His heart for widows. If you remarry, you will be showing the way to timid women to come out of their tomb and lead a bright and happy life by seeing your example.
Be bold, be blessed!
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, Mob:8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
